How To Deal With Bullies ebook

"How to Deal with Bullies at Work" by Nancy Slessenger - UPDATED

The downloadable eBook packed full of practical tips, tools & techniques that you can use to stop bullying at work.

This book has been updated this year after some requests from our readers who wanted a section on “malicious bullying”.

This is the kind of bullying where a person or people get together and deliberately bully someone else.

I was horrified to hear of one particularly vicious case involving a group of quite senior managers. These things are rare, however, it’s very useful to know how to recognize them and how to deal with them if you are ever unfortunate enough to be on the receiving end.

Page 4 How to recognise a bully

8 specific behaviours to look out for

Page 5 How to understand the bully

 
“Know your enemy”. The better you can understand what’s going on, the better you can deal with it. You will discover why they are this way, what part status plays for a bully, and why it’s no good trying to reason with them

Page 7 What to do about being bullied

– Simple strategies that work
12 simple strategies that will help you deal with bullying

Page 9 Have you been encouraging someone to bully you?

Without realizing it, you may have been making it easier for someone to bully you. Find out three things you need to avoid.

Page 10 What to do if your manager is bullying you

How to deal with a manager who bullies you. You don’t have to put up with it. Find out how to stop it.

Page 13 How to manage someone who is bullying others

If you discover that someone who works for you is bullying others, you need to tackle it. It won’t go away on its own. You will find 11 steps to help you resolve this issue.

Page 16 Senior managers who bully lots of people

This is a particular issue, you’ll find some tips on extra things to do here

Page 17 What to do when someone loses their temper

 
A great technique that works like a dream. Have this up your sleeve for whenever anyone loses it and you are in the firing line. This will work on your manager, your colleague, a customer (and at home)

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Section on malicious bullying and how to tackle it, pages 18 to 32

New Page 18 Malicious bullying
This kind of bullying is not very common, but when you are the victim of it, it can be a nightmare.

It happens when a person, or a group of people, deliberately make your life awful.

This is most likely to happen when you find yourself in a new situation, joining a new department; working for a new manager or starting a new job.

You’ll find a real life example (with the names changed).

New Page 20 Make sure you spot it early
A useful rule for spotting this kind of problem before it’s too late.
Four ways of spotting this behaviour

New Page 21 Why you?
A possible reason

New Page 21 How to deal with malicious bullying
A tool you can use to tackle this behaviour with four pages of examples to show you what to say including how to deal with being excluded, being undermined, being threatened and being lied to.

New Page 25 Supervisors/managers: what to do if people in your team are bullying you
The “Three Strikes” tool that will squash this behaviour before things get bad.

New Page 27 What if your manager is bullying you?
Seven more things to do if your manager is bullying you in a malicious way

New Page 29 Tackle it early
Why it's so much better to tackle it early

New Page 30 You may be dealing with a sociopath
What to do if you, like me, discover you are in this position

New Page 30 The responsibilities of the company or organisation
If you discover this is going on in your company, you need to tackle it, but it’s not always easy. Here are eight steps you can take to deal with it.

New Page 32 Starting a new job or moving to a new role
A word of warning so that you are on the look out for any problems and can nip them in the bud when you start a new role

Page 33 Am I a bully?
The fish is the last one to see the water, and so it is when  you are bullying someone else. Here is a list of nine areas for you to check to make sure that you are treating others as you would wish to be treated.

If  you discover you have been bullying there are also tips on what to do instead.

In this 38 page eBook you will find all the information you need to tackle the bullying you are having to put up with at the moment and stop it from happening again.